Jun 18 2014 7:20am

Alpha Women Should Go For Beta Males: Agree?

A new book titled The Alpha Woman Meets Her Match says that today's “Leaning In” woman should go for a man who is beta to her alpha.

The author, a “relationship therapist,” wants the “Alpha woman to look past the overly competitive, domineering Alpha male for a man who is not threatened by her strengths but is communicative, responsible, and collaborative. Just as Alpha women aren't demanding bitches, Beta men aren't passive wimps.”

There's an online test you can take to find out just how much alpha and beta you have in your personality—and therefore who would be your perfect match.

Have romance novels been doing it wrong all this time, pairing Alpha females with Alpha males? Are there any examples of Beta females paired with Beta men?

h/t to Sahara Hoshi for the post

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1. Kadiya

Sadly I am getting a lot of errors at her site. I finally managed to get to the quiz but got an error when it went to score it. Ah well, maybe I'll try again later.

Anyway, I wanted to comment. I think both pairings have advantages and disadvantages and it is going to matter what the alpha woman is looking for and the extent to which she needs control. If she wants someone to nurture her and help hold her up or to take charge in other areas of her life, a beta man is probably going to be a better fit. A woman who is looking for someone to match her stride for stride in her interests or push her harder might prefer an alpha man. Just my 2 cents.
2. lauralee1912
I took the quiz (Firefox browser did fine) am definitely alpha. I am the breadwinner in our family and am married to a beta. I work in technology, which is obviously a male-dominated field, and there are nerds out there who are scared spitless of me. My husband works in sales and likes to make people happy. He is cooking dinner as I type this. :)

A one book that came to mind where both the hero and heroine both showed a lot of beta behaviors is A Night to Surrender by Tessa Dare. Both of them cared strongly about those under their charge, and irritated each other to no end, then ended up taking care of each other.
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