Feb 13 2012 8:07am

Work for Love!

Want to find love—and marriage? Go to work! Office romances end up in office marriages about 30% of the time, a CareerBuilder survey finds. According to the survey, 38 percent of workers have dated a coworker at least once over the course of their career, with 17 percent having done it twice. Nearly 20 percent said they’d dated their direct supervisor, while 28 percent said they have dated someone even higher up in the company’s hierarchy.

Sounds like a certain type of romance novel, doesn’t it?

Could you imagine ever dating your boss?

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Beth Cato
1. Beth Cato
This makes sense to me. My parents met at work. They were both normal workers, not supervising or anything.
Megan Frampton
2. MFrampton
@BethCato: This makes total sense to me as well--my grandparents actually met at Macy's in NYC, he hired her for a job, and then--well, sparks flew. It's hard to meet people somewhere else when you're spending 8+ hours a day in one spot.
Christopher Morgan
3. cmorgan
Heh... Yeah so I kind of "hired" my girlfriend for a student organization I was president of in College. Wanted to get to know her better so I brought her on a conference with us, not my fault she got on the executive council with me. Gross abuse of power? Yes. It wasn't me at my most noble. BUT we are still together 5 years later.
Rakisha Kearns-White
4. BrooklynShoeBabe
My immediate boss: no, he's gay.
My boss's boss: no, she's a she and I'm straight and so is she
My boss's boss's boss: maybe, if we were both single. He's cute. :-)
Kinsey Holley
5. KinseyHolley
I've always worked in law firms, where dating between lawyers was usually okay (though one would have to quit if they got married), but dating between lawyers and staff (read: secretaries, paralegals) was strictly off limits. Of course, every law firm has its sweet love stories, of secretaries and bosses (or non-boss lawyers) who dated on the sly, fell in love, got married. And every firm has its stories about hot n nasty affairs which weren't really dating and usually involved adultery on at least one person's part.

We (my co-workers at various firms) always laughed about the hot lawyer trope so popular in TV/Hollywood/romance novels. There are more hot female lawyers than male lawyers. I'd say 5%, at the very most, of all the lawyers I've ever known could be called hot. As one very cynical secretary I used to know (who wound up marrying a lawyer at the firm) used to say, you have to remember that most male lawyers were paste eaters in grade school. (She married a charming British lawyer and later died on safari in Africa. Which was tragic, but she had that kind of life, you know? We were always jealous of her).

Anyway, to answer the question - no, I never imagined dating any of the attorneys I worked for. But there were attorneys I would have dated, or came close to dating, if it had seemed work risking my job for.

I mean, in real life, if other people in the company find out you're banging the boss--even if you're both single--doesn't that usually make you the object of nasty gossip?
Beth Cato
6. Lucy D
Although my husband and I met while working at the movies together in high school, I don't know that I would recommend an office romance. If you like your job and the romance just doesn't work out, you might have to leave if the situation gets too volatile (especially if it was your boss). I agree with Kinsey that it promotes nasty gossip as well. I too worked in more than one law firm where you knew when the secretary and her boss were hooking up since everyone noticed they always took lunch together, or both left early, or guess who got the promotion and new office. Nasty gossip indeed!
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