Sat
Jan 7 2017 1:00pm

The World Will Remember Carrie Fisher as Princess Leia, But She’ll Always Be Marie to Me

Carrie Fisher in When Harry Met Sally

Why I'll Always Remember Carrie Fisher as Marie in When Harry Met Sally

It's an innocuous role on the surface: quirky heroine's best friend. Upon a deeper look, Carrie Fisher's Marie is so much more. Over the past week, since Carrie Fisher's unexpected death, many people have remembered her for her work in Star Wars and for her personal life: She was a rebel leader. A intergalactic legend. A mental health advocate and kickass feminist. It's in her role as Marie in 1989's When Harry Met Sally much of this comes together. 

When I was younger—probably not yet in my teens—I watched When Harry Met Sally for the first time. I had watched City Slickers with my dad not long before, and my mom wanted to show me a different side of Billy Crystal so one day we popped popcorn and rented When Harry Met Sally on VHS (you know, those bricks movies that used to come out roughly a year after it was in theaters). I was hooked. I loved Meg Ryan's high strung Sally Albright and Billy Crystal's neurotic Harry Burns. It wasn't until years later that I fell for the true star, Carrie Fisher's Marie. 

When we meet Marie at a girl's lunch with Sally and their other friend Alice, Sally has broken up with her long time boyfriend and Marie wants her to get back on the horse. Pulling out her Rolodex (which she for some reason felt the need to bring to lunch), Marie says: 

“All I'm saying is that somewhere out there is the man you are supposed to marry. And if you don't get him first, somebody else will, and you'll have to spend the rest of your life knowing that somebody else is married to your husband”

 
Source: dixonsolo.tumblr.com

This kernel of wisdom is just the beginning of Marie's journey through When Harry Met Sally alongside the titular characters. Quickly we learn that while Marie is good at doling out the advice, she's in desperate need of taking some for herself. She's carrying on an affair with a married man, Arthur, who she knows will never leave his wife, and it becomes Sally's job to impart some hard truths, to which Marie begins her refrain of the movie, “You're right, you're right. I know you're right.” 

What's really golden about this movie—really, Nora Ephron at her best—is that within the story of Harry and Sally is the love story of Marie and Jess. It begins with a great scene halfway through the movie where Jess, Marie, Harry, and Sally go on a double date in an attempt to matchmake Jess and Sally, and Harry and Marie. However, the date ends with Marie and Jess pairing off instead, and thus begins a love story that's as good as our main romance. Things move quickly between Jess and Marie and by the end of the film, they've moved in together and married, living their own happy ever after. 

 
Source: dixonsolo.tumblr.com

Throughout the movie, Marie and Jess truly are relationship goals. Marie and Jess are shown arguing, being affectionate, and generally just being the best couple in the movie. Getting to this happy-ever-after takes a lot for Marie. She learns to let go of her obsession. She learns how to ask for what she wants—in a healthy context—and she learns how to guide her friends and spouse to happiness too. She's a truly caring person and that comes through with every scene, every line, throughout When Harry Met Sally. 

I'll be mourning Carrie Fisher for a while to come. She imparted so many words of wisdom throughout her 60 years of life, and as I remember each one, I'll hear the echoes of Marie and Sally on the sidewalk—“You're right, you're right. I know you're right.”


H&H Editor Picks:

Romantic Comedy Needs Flawed Characters

Are Romantic Comedies on Their Way Back?

January 2017 Romance New Releases

 

 

 

 

 


Jennifer Proffitt is a Midwest transplant to New York City. You can usually find her wishing time-travel was possible so she could go back to Victorian England or that she was a paranormal creature. But in the meantime, she fills her time being the Community Manger for Heroes and Heartbreakers, and reading and writing romance. You can find her on Twitter at @JennProffitt

Subscribe to this conversation (must be logged in):
4 comments
Carmen Pinzon
1. bungluna
I'll have to revisit this movie from your pov. Thank you for the article. I myself always think of the book "Postcards From The Edge" when I think of Ms. Fisher.
Maggie Boyd
2. maggieboyd66
I've always loved this role by Carrie Fisher and feel like it is the one that is most "Carrie". Princess Leia is not the sarcastic yet loving friend Fisher comes across as but Marie definitely is. But I'll admit, when I think of Fisher I think of her books, especially "Surrender the Pink". There's a scene in that novel where the heroine hides in a closet that had me ROFL. Just finished The Princess Diarist and it was a very bitter, sweet read.
tina arnold
3. lindseygarwood
I love that you added my favorite quote of Marie's. The one where she says then you will have to spend the rest of your life knowing someone else is married to your husband. I have often referred to that when talking about dating with my friends. I agree with everything that Jennifer said in this article. I also loved when Marie tells Jess--tell me I am never going to have to be out there again and when she tells him she will never want that Roy Rogers Wagon Wheel coffee table (paraphrasing). Yes, this is the Carrie that I will remember over Leia. What I really love is that in real life she loved her dog and took him everywhere. I remember she took him to a dinner at the White House. One of those Black Tie events and everyone was oohing and aahing over her dog.
Jennifer Proffitt
4. JenniferProffitt
The thing about Jess and Marie's relationship was that it was so open and honest and real. It's this couple that is SO tired of dating. So jaded by the world they live in and suddenly one day, Marie (on a bad blind date) quotes an article and of all the people, that author of that article is sitting across from her. It's such a serendipitous moment, worthy of a rom-com and yet it's so real--how often do we quote articles or TV shows to one another casually? And you never know that that person is going to be sitting right across the table from you. It's such a great moment. And then the sweetness of every Jess/Marie moment after? Jess's toast at the wedding? I LOVE that quote from Marie too--"tell me I never have to go out there again"--and the way she just relaxes into Jess? She desperately wanted to find someone to love her fully and she is exhausted at the idea of having to go back out there but she falls onto Jess because he saved her not only from dating, but from many of the destructive patterns she found herself in. It was beautiful. And yes, they're still not afraid to be themselves around one another--I will never want that Roy Rogers Wagon Wheel. What she's really saying is "I will never want this, but I still love you"

Besides this moment, yes, I'll echo that beyond any of her roles, I will remember Carrie Fisher as the astounding and inspiring PERSON she was!
Post a comment