Tue
Aug 27 2013 7:10am

Mine! Sharing in Romance?

When Chelsea Mueller read Kit Rocha's new release Beyond Pain, she tweeted,

“...you are going to love that book so much, Megan. (Bren doesn't share Six.)”

It's true. I don't like to share (I'm an only child), and normally, I don't like to read about sharing (menage et al) in my romances, either. Of course, authors such as Rocha, Charlotte Stein, and Cara McKenna have changed my mind—a bit—but I still am not a big fan.

What about you? Are you okay with sharing in your erotic romance (other romances are usually exclusive anyway, so the issue doesn't come up)? If you are, who writes your favorite sharing books?

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9 comments
Kareni
1. Kareni
Lauren Dane has some excellent books in which sharing takes place. The sharing is not only physical but emotional.
Jennifer Proffitt
2. JenniferProffitt
I think it's important to ask if we're talking short-term sharing for a night to fulfill a fantasy or long-term multiple-partner relationships. I'm fine with either but I have a hard to suspending belief with that latter unless it's done really really well.

@Kareni, I thought Lauren Dane has done a great job in making it both emotional, physical, and, most importantly, believable. I've seen Dane do both sharing as just a one-off fantasy thing and also making it a long-term commitment.

In the case of Dane, and other erotic authors who have done it well (I like Lorelei James's take although sometimes it can get to be a bit much for me...), it really is believable that yes, they will live HEA, and yes, everyone's families will be relatively OK with it, etc. I buy into the fantasy.

In the aforementioned Kit Rocha, again I totally find it believable that "sharing is caring" in this world. With the fall of technology and utopia turning into dystopia, it's easy to understand that inhibitions are flung out the window and that as long as you're surviving and having fun, that's all that matters. Rocha's books also make it obvious that sharing a lover is really sharing it's not about a weird sense of ownership like some BDSM and erotica can make it seem, which what puts me off of any multiple partner erotica anyway.
Carmen Pinzon
3. bungluna
I usually don't like sharing in my romance. That said, both Lauren Dane and Olivia Cunning make me believe in all kinds of sharing and the posibilities of a HEA for the characters involved.
Rizos4312
4. Rizos4312
I don't mind sharing as long as it's part of a committed triad/polyamory type of relationship. Sharing just for the heck of it doesn't really appeal to me. I liked Beyond Shame but I can't say that I was entirely sold on multiple partners sex scenes and this is the main reason why I still haven't read Beyond Control.
Rizos4312
5. AMG
Like Megan, I'm an only child, so sharing is not my first impulse. I'm neither a fan nor a convert to menage.
Rizos4312
6. chris booklover
My issue with sharing - well, one of them - is just how implausible most of these stories are. They work only if you assume the existence of a species unique to Romancelandia - the hot alpha male who is head over heels in love with the heroine and would not dream of touching another woman, but is perfectly happy to share her with his brothers or best friends. Where are these guys? :)
Kareni
7. Kareni
I thought of another book with sharing: Strange Attractions by Emma Holly. How many books have physicists as one of the leads?
Fiona McGier
8. FionaMcGier
"They work only if you assume the existence of a species unique to
Romancelandia - the hot alpha male who is head over heels in love with
the heroine and would not dream of touching another woman, but is
perfectly happy to share her with his brothers or best friends. Where
are these guys? :)"

I have to agree with Chris Booklover! I've NEVER met a man willing to share any woman with other men! I've been told "The only dick in the room is going to be mine!" by guys who argue that a 3-some is just fine as long as it's multiple women. I tell them that if the 2 women are enjoying each other, there's no need for him to be there at all, so he can take his dick and go home. ;-D

Seriously, the idea that a man will share with any other man, particularly his brothers, is hilarious! My 3 sons wouldn't ever even share their toys! The idea that any of them would share their SO with one or more of their brothers without neutering him makes me giggle.
I know it's fiction, but come on! It's easier to believe in shifters and vampires, than to believe some alpha-male is going to share his woman!
Jennifer Proffitt
9. JenniferProffitt
@Chris Booklover and @FionaMcGier: Okay, I totally get what you're saying and most of the time I can only read one or two books in a row that are heavy/dark erotica where there may be sharing before my brain melts. Yes, I binged Kit Rocha's Beyond Series and was SO GLAD Bren never shared Six, even though there was still sharing in the book, and then I immediately turned around and read three Kristan Higgins' books to cleanse my pallet. BUT I have this to say:


Haha, way to go, Logic!
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