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Dec 5 2011 1:30pm

1, 2, 3: Ménage à Trois from Lorelei James, Megan Hart, Maya Banks, and More!

Rough, Raw, and Ready by Lorelei JamesAccording to Google, unspecified polls (whatever that means) tell us that only 24% of people have actually had a threesome. Yet it seems there are a lot of people out there who like to read romances that feature a ménage à trois. Why so popular? Is it the forbidden aspect of it? Does the addition of one more person add to the hotness?

It’s pretty commonly known that many men find the idea of two women together a hot fantasy. Even for women, the idea of being a little bicurious with another woman can be intriguing. For women readers, the appeal of two men at the same time is understandable—if one hot guy is good, two is better!

One of the things I like about ménage stories is the almost endless possibilities three people bring to a story. A relationship that involves three people is going to have more potential for conflict (as well as potential sex positions!). There can be issues of jealousy and insecurity and fairness. There are so many variations on the love story—how the three meet and fall in love with one or even two other people. Even within the common labels of f/f/m, f/m/f, m/f/m, m/m/f, there are variations on the theme. In an m/f/m ménage, it can be a one-time only fantasy, or it can end in a committed relationship for all three. An m/m/f ménage is more likely to end in a committed relationship for all three—but not necessarily.

Tempted by Megan HartHow realistic is the “happy ever after for all three” ending in a ménage romance? From the woman’s point of view, I can see the advantages of having two men around. How cool would it be to have one man who’s skilled at car repairs and another who likes to do home renovations? One guy who likes to give massages and another guy who likes to cook? And that’s not even in bed! If you like men, why wouldn’t two be better than one? Two mouths for kissing, nibbling and sucking. Four hands for caressing and rubbing and exploring. Nice. With two guys, stamina (ahem) wouldn’t be an issue. Think of the exponential pleasure. Think of the multiple orgasms!

But from the man’s point of view, I have a hard time seeing men as willing to share their woman with another dude. But hey, it’s a fantasy, right?

So some threesomes are a hot and exciting one time fling thing, but an actual ménage à trois relationship isn’t just about excitement in bed. Sure, it’s a fantasy, but the ménage stories I enjoy the most aren’t just about kinky sex; they’re about falling in love, and all the problems that go along with that. They’re about overcoming obstacles to find that HEA, obstacles which are even greater because of it being a complicated threesome.

Colters’ Woman by Maya BanksMy favorite ménage romances run the gamut of all these types. Top of my list is Rough, Raw, and Ready, by Lorelei James. This is an m/m/f ménage that is super hot with lots of conflict and emotion. I also loved Lorelei’s book Corralled, which is entirely different. This one is m/f/m—there’s no relationship between the two men and it has a different ending. Another favorite is Tempted by Megan Hart, also m/f/m, but which raises lots of tantalizing questions in the reader’s mind.

Maya Banks has written some delicious ménage stories, frequently ending in committed relationships for all three. And authors like Shayla Black and Lora Leigh often include threesomes in their stories that are more the hot “one time only” fantasy.

What’s your preference when it comes to ménage à trois stories? Sexy one time threesomes? Committed ménage à trois relationships?


 

Kelly Jamieson is an author, wife, mother and avid romance reader. Find her at www.kellyjamieson.com, on Twitter @KellyJamieson or Facebook.

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13 comments
Julie Destry
1. Julie Destry
i love menage! m/m/f or m/f/m...any combination, although i'm not into reading girl/girl action :)
my list of favorites also includes Megan Hart's Tempted (not to mention the scene in Dirty...mmmm....), and i enjoyed her fairy tale in the Naughty Bits anthology. Inez Kelley's Coming Clean is top of my list, along with Pepper Espinoza's Surrender's Edge. Maya Banks has written a few i loved, too!

it doesn't much matter to me if they end up in a relationship; however, i want to dig really deep into that emotional development. that's what makes it hot, not just the sex.
Heather Waters
2. hnwaters
@Julie Destry --

i want to dig really deep into that emotional development. that's what makes it hot, not just the sex.

Totally agree. No matter the type of romance we're talking about, if there's no character development, it's not gonna be my thing.
Julie Destry
3. Kate K
ONLY 24%? That seems really high to me, but then this is one of those fantasies that sounds good in theory, but would be less titillating in real time. (Where in the world do you put that extra arm/leg/head?) That being said, I don't like the menage stories that include brothers at all. Those really bothers me in an incestuous way; it also seems unlikely that 2 men would share without having any sexual feelings for each other.
Julie Destry
4. Eb__Rai
This is one of my FAVORITE sub-genres. If you haven't tried it...Crescendo by Kaitlin Maitland soooo good. I'm also a HUGE fan of Sophie Oaks Siren series. I even have a Kindle collection titled "multiplied" lol!
Julie Destry
5. Nara Malone
My favorite is a story where the three stay together, determined to make it work for the long haul.
Pat
6. username
@ Julie and hnwaters - I am totally with you on the emotional development. There are menage stories out there that don't have a lot of that and I guess are more in the "erotica" category than erotic romance. For me it must be a romance and I do love lots of emotions in my romance!
Kate - LOL I think you're right, IRL it might not be so sexy.

Eb glad to hear you like menage romances. Will have to check out some of the recommendations!
Kelly Jamieson
7. KellyJ
Gah that comment from "username" is me.

@Nara - I like those too, even though I think they are truly a fantasy!
romance reader
8. bookstorecat
Megan Hart's Dirty is probably my fave of all her excellent books. I could totally buy how the one menage episode in that book comes about. She writes really believable characters and scenes. That may be a part of why I'm not even tempted to read Tempted, because I find the idea of menage kind of icky in a realistic context. The less fantastical the fantasy of it is, the more the idea goes from being kinda hot to really not.
Julie Destry
9. romancejunkie
I love reading ménage romance. It's sort of my little dirty secret as most people when they find out i read them think I’m making a joke since for some reason they think I’m conservative (boy are they wrong). I love all type of Ménage but i was first introduced really into the erotic novels like this by Maya Banks. Her Colter series is definitely a favorite. And i have since reading these actually met a few people who have made these relationships work. And as far as the comment about brothers sharing-i don't find it all that weird honestly. Those are always m/f/m where all the focus is on the woman. But hey let's be honest a very small percentage of people will ever experience this for themselves and those that do will probably do it just for kicks, not looking for anything deeper. So i say as long as the story is well written and the emotion is believable-BRING IT ON! I’ll read it and most likely love it!
Julie Destry
10. tiago5
I love these books!!!!! Good story is to be had if you are willing to read more than the sex which is pretty damn hot! But I DEMAND Kelly that you pick up Samantha Kane's "Brothers in Arms" Series. Freaking sexual and a really good storylines to boot. I also love Lauren Dane's "Undercover". This book is so sexy and the leads have you so intrigued and entertained that I read this book every other month. Pleasure is the key here and let me just say if this were not a Fantasy and could Truly be put in to play,then I am so there with more than bells on! Megan Hart is an incredible writer and her stuff really for me gives me as a woman a lot to think about. She goes THERE in thought and I love her for it.
Julie Destry
11. Adriana Kraft
Great post, Kelly! I, too love menages - all the possible combinations, by which I mean the endless variations that seem possible even though there are only two possible "threesomes."

Menage is a fabulous hot fantasy for lots of folks who would never try it in real life - tempting, delectable, decadent, extremely hot just in the imagination.

Readers might be surprised to know that for those who do venture into group sex in real life, women are as likely to initiate it as are men. That research didn't clarify which type was initiated by women, however.

And I loved that you included the notion of the bicurious woman - there's a lot of research suggesting that at least for women, we become more "sexually fluid" as we age.

Which might be a reason my favorite menages - both to read and to write - involve two women and one man. Like Nara, I'm especially fond of three-way happy endings.

Hmm, now I'll have to go add to my TBR list!

Adriana
Julie Destry
12. hcarolyn
I loved Maya Banks Colters and I like the committed/emotional aspect, unrealistic or not...are there any others like this out there!
Julie Destry
13. Janine G.
I love ménage stories! They are my absolute favorite. It started when I got Megan Hart's Tempted on audio book and has spiraled from there. I am always on the search for the elusive f/f/m with a three way HEA, but I can't find one that's not horribly written. My favorite so far is Kate Richards An Apple Away; my only problem being that it is too short! I could have read that one forever. I have finally decided to just write an f/f/m because no one else seems to want to :) Any other recommendations would be highly appreciated!
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