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Aug 3 2011 5:41pm

Facebook Breakups: Unlike

The New York Times reports that the Boston Public Health Commission recently held a day-long conference with 200 teenagers from Boston schools on how to have a healthy breakup. To give you an idea of the main concerns being addressed, organizers wore pins that read “face it / don’t facebook it.”

Facebook status changes and text messages are common breakup crutches nowadays, it’s true, but are people really any more or less cowardly about it than they’ve always been? Dear John letters have been around forever. Sex in the City’s Carrie Bradshaw was dumped via Post-It. And even phone breakups are still less messy than a face-to-face.

I’m certainly not against workshops like these, but I do think it’s interesting that they’re just now being held, as the problems are clearly more than Facebook-deep. And I also have to wonder if the courage to confront someone in person can really be taught.

Thumbs down image courtesy of comedy_nose via Flickr

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4 comments
Stephanie Treanor
1. Streanor
The things people put up on facebook drive me crazy, especially that like button.

I've seen status updates that say "my dog just died today" AND PEOPLE ACTUALLY LIKE IT!?! seriously why would you LIKE something that terrible, do you understand the context of the word? I dont think so.

I personally would get offended if someone did that, I'm telling you my dog died or i just broke up with someone and you "like" it. Fantastic, i'm so glad you like my mysery.

I think the more tools you give people to not have to face one another in person the worse it gets.
Carrie Strickler
2. DyslexicSquirrel
I got dumped on AIM. It was not awesome. Took me forever to get over it because I had no closure.
Chelsea Mueller
3. ChelseaMueller
In an age of oversharing -- particularly for those who have cell phones in high school -- it's a good idea. We've all become more accustomed to having disconnected conversations -- choosing to text back and forth or tweet than to call.
Carrie Strickler
4. DyslexicSquirrel
I choose to text if I can because I have issues calling people on the phone. Literally took me ten minutes to get my shit together enough to call my landlord when the lock on my door was broken. ):

But if it's my friend, I'd rather talk to them in person. Sometimes it's just more convenient for me to text them since we all work and some of them have kids. Otherwise I'd never talk to them half the time.
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