The age old question of, “So when are you getting married?” is one that most single women can relate to – with sympathy. Those who live in what Ami Bera calls “hyphenated America” are no exception to this rule. Many times, for those from more traditional cultures, the pressure to marry is even greater. Modern romance authors play this for laughs while looking at the serious subject of what happens when a modern American girl meets up with her family’s traditional values.
Mina Rezayi, the heroine of Marjan Kamali’s Together Tea, wonders just what is wrong with her mother.
Darya loved to calculate the statistics of available Persian bachelors, factoring in their attributes, family histories, education, the probability for divorce. She had her very own system of assigning numbers to certain qualities. Five for good teeth. Minus 10 for having only a bachelors and no graduate degree. Plus 20 if it could be proved that they were kind to their mothers. Plus 7 if they didn’t hold their forks like shovels.
When Mina explains that she’s not interested in marriage, her mother starts talking to the bedspread.